We usually intersperse blogs with book reviews. In view of the death of the solitary, Maggie Ross, last month, we hear today from Ruth Mills, who uses terms based on ‘eremos’: the Desert, where Jesus went to be alone with God. Ruth is currently studying with the Community of the Resurrection in Mirfield, Yorkshire.
Solitude in Community
The first time I arrived at a Julian Meeting I was drawn to the paradox of following Mother Julian’s example of sitting in eremitic silence, whilst sitting with others to do so: coming together – to be alone with God.
Yet in the juxtaposition there is something that is, without doubt, the nature of the Oneing of the soul to God which Julian writes of in her Revelation of Divine Love.
“The soul is preciously knitted to Him in its making by a knot so subtle and so mighty that it is Oned into God” Julian writes. And it is because every individual is “oned” to God that. Julian reasons, all of humanity is inextricably linked to one another. True spiritual togetherness means recognising that human separation is an illusion, and that humanity is inherently fused to the Divine from the moment of creation, expressed through the vivid imagery of a tightly bound knot.
Those gifted in the craft of knotwork have a fine art-form of working a cord through, around and within itself in a work which bonds, and if done well, with exquisit beauty. The work of the oneing of one’s soul with God is labour and beauty also, possibly the most wonderful and transformative undertaking of a human life.
As a vowed celibate to the Single Consecrated Life, my life is, personally, set apart from the secular world for the Glory and the Kingdom of God, and yet the purpose of my consecration is to free me to enter more fully back into the world so that I may enter more fully into the love of Creation and humanity which follows closely in the footsteps of the Lord Jesus.
But contemplation isn’t a work only reserved for Religious or the Church, it’s a divine work for all humanity, together. If the Kingdom of God is encounter, communion, and coming together, then the real challenge is this: how do we come near when human constructs set us apart?
Julian writes “prayer ones the soul to God”.
In following Julian into silence, we are not merely withdrawing from the outside world in pursuit of stillness. Rather, we are entering into prayer that reaches beyond the confinements of the secular world towards the Creator God who is present in all places. Yes, we turn from distractions, but we do not reject the world. Instead, we turn forward, reaching more deeply into the ever-present Kingdom of God, which has already arrived and encompasses us in every place and time.
Julian’s eremitic life was situated within the movement of the church and the people around her, setting her apart in radical solitude for prayer for the world yet gifting connection with those who sought her counsel through her cell window. It was a position of hermitic ‘being’ pointing all souls towards the Glory of God: a work of sewing together the souls and Creator in the work of salvific oneing, not only through divine ecstatic intimacy, but in divine disruptive participation.
From Julian’s Anchorhold to our meeting room.
Like all skillful craft forms, we need a mentor and guide to sit alongside us, to work beside us, teaching and steadying our hands as we learn to fine-tune our spiritual practice. Here, Julian serves as our master weaver, guiding us in the art of being “oned.”
This paradox reveals itself for the Glory of God. In our sitting together eremitically, we are silent in the shared work of Oneing – of weaving that binding knot of union with the Divine.
A worthy work indeed.
Text and Photograph ©Ruth Mills
Photograph: knotted Celtic gate at the fishing village of Beadnell Bay, Northumbria. “This is my own photo- I’ve been walking the St Aidan’s way with Newcastle diocese and was in one of the villages we passed through in May- I was really stunned by it”.
Martha Reeves (born 1941) died peacefully on June 11, 2026 in Oxford. She was a vowed Anglican solitary (or anchorite) and author of books on spirituality, for example ‘Silence, a user’s guide’. Her pen name was Maggie Ross. She In an interview with Church Times she wrote “communities are only as healthy as the solitudes that make them up; and that a life that is prayer is about being, not doing”. Her gravestone reads: ‘Sr Martha Emilie Reeves. In Silence Beholding ‘, a part quotation from her book ‘Writing the icon of the heart‘. She had written her own blog since 2006. She opened her 2020 article on “Silent Knowing” by quoting Graham Ward: “all theology must emerge from silence and result in silence”.
“As far as my study of scripture goes, I have found that to love Christ above all things will involve three things: warmth and song and sweetness. And these three, as far as I know from personal experience cannot exist for long without there being great quiet.” Richard Rolle, The Fire of Love, C15, cited by Janet Rolinson.
“Many children seek not to just learn about and think about God, but to experience God as the ground of their being. Meditation is one way of experiencing the presence of Jesus within. Meditation provides children with an opportunity to undertake a journey of silence and stillness as one way of helping them cope with the pressures of life”.© Gail Ballinger – August 2005 JM magazine p. 5.
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